Bad news is non-popmundo related, but the fact that I have that level of downtime means that I am SUPER FUCKING BORED at work. It's very frustrating.
In other happy news, boyfriend and I have had a long chat about moving in together. It won't happen for another two years at minimum because I have a lot of debt I need to clear first (that last move absolutely killed me) and we don't want to do the thing where the house is in his name and he's carrying the full load while I work on paying my stuff off, or a thing where we both contribute but then it takes me longer to pay my stuff off. It sucks that we have to wait two years but I also like that we are already planning for that far in the future. But this also gives us a lot of time to save (ok, for him to save, because I'm busy paying things down), time for the market to get better, and also lots of time for us to figure out our house needs vs wants. Dealbreakers vs. dreams.
We also remark frequently at how easy our relationship has been. No drama. No fights. Don't get me wrong, there have been disagreements, particularly because of his introversion (though his is so intense it borders on anti-social) up against my extreme extroversion and social butterfly life, but we've learned how to adjust for that. Only one time that I've been actually upset with him, because he completely "forgot" a conversation that we had, though we had it over text so all he had to do was scroll up while he was at the store to get me the things I needed to make the meal I was making for New Year's but instead got something completely different and didn't get the absolutely most important ingredients so I couldn't make the meal that I'd been looking forward to all month long, and then refused to run to the store just 5 minutes away because he doesn't like "inconveniencing" staff at stores on holidays, even though it was 4:30 on New Year's Eve so it wasn't even party time yet, and they had to work whether he was there or not, also it was just 3 items and they have self-check out so you really don't need to bother them at all and you told me you would get these things the day before and somehow forgot the conversation in a matter of hours but won't even rectify the situation that you caused? *deep breath*
Okay, I'm still annoyed by that, clearly. Wouldn't you be? Anyway, we still didn't fight over it, and within a few hours I was over it. We've had things that we disagree over, but have all been things that we simply disagree over, or talk about it and figure it out, no fights have ever happened. But when it comes to buying a house, I think we're going to end up having several. We both want a lot of different things. He likes small houses. I need space. Also, he wants to stay in the county he's in because prices are lower. I do NOT because it's a 45 minute drive to work minimum if we lived at the very edge of that county, while for him it would be 10, but furthermore, a 45 minute drive to all my friends. Why should I be punished because I do have family and friends that I hang out with regularly. He said (somewhat jokingly) "Well this is how you'll find out who your real friends are." That doesn't even make sense. Why would I expect 10 people to come to me all the time, when I'd be the only one living far away - not to mention, I can guarantee he wouldn't want me hosting people frequently, so what position does that put me in?
However, something else that was interesting, is that the conversation about buying a house came up so organically, it's not like we sat down and said we need to talk, it just happened. And it seems as though we both thought about it independently and came to a similar conclusion (the fact that we have to wait two years and why). It's just another example of how well we are meshing together.